I am sick of being erased
Erased by straight people
By gay people
By other bisexuals
By all the other Anything but bi people
By no labels people
Fucking. Stop, It
Don’t embrace one aspect of me, like my gender, and delegitimatize the my sexuality or vice versa
I am not your prop for queerer-then-thou points/inclusion checklist of people you would bang.
My sexuality is not some horrible diseased affront to the gods I need saved from/enlightened about.
I am not a prop. I am a person.
Don’t embrace what is convenient for you and erase the rest.
Bisexual Mythbusting: Myth #3543
"Bisexuals are just gays who want heterosexual privilege"
True but simply identifying as “heterosexual” would make things too easy for us. We just didn’t want to miss out on experiencing homophobia, assault, bullying, fetishisation etc or having people both inside and outside the community deny our experiences.
[Image: Circular gradient of blue, purple and pink background. In the center is a screen shot of a tumblr text post saying: “The only time fck8h pays attention to bisexuals is when they’re stealing their tumblr text posts to use in shitty campaign graphics.” The name of the poster, a-little-bi-furious, is crossed out with a half-transparent black line. Below is the FCKH8.com logo.]
Idea credit: a-little-bi-furious
The TERFs and the BERFs
Please note: this post presumes that you already know what “TERF” and “radscum” means and why the dialogue these terms refer to is both biphobic and transphobic. If you don’t know, check out the “radscum" tag on my tumblr for more info.
It’s time that we start talking about BERFs - Bi Exclusionary Radical Feminists.
In the past few months, there have been several clashes between Bi Tumblr bloggers, and bloggers from the radscum part of tumblr. However, in all of our discussions, us Bi Tumblr bloggers have constantly identified these people and their ideologies either as “radscum” or “TERFs” - Trans Exclusionary Radical Feminists. This has happened despite the fact that biphobia, rather than transphobia, was the topic of discussion.
The problem with these terms is that they point out a different problem than the one we want to address. Though “radscum” is non-specific - or rather because it is - no one automatically thinks about biphobia as part of that ideology, but rather mostly about transphobia and transmisogyny. Likewise - the term “TERFs” points out these same issues in these communities and ideologies, and is therefore inaccurate when we want to talk about biphobia and monosexism.
I will go right ahead and say that these two things - biphobia and transphobia, or biphobic misogyny and transmisogyny - usually go together in radscum discourse. I am suggesting the term BERF not in order to take attention away from transphobia and transmisogyny in radscum communities and dialogues, but rather in order to add another visible, spoken aspect to our criticism of them. In doing so, I also mean that bi and trans women could - and should - work in alliance together in exposing and resisting these trends, giving weight to both these problems. In this case, the term BERF can be used to talk about this additional aspect of radscum ideology. When talking about biphobia and transphobia in these dialogues, we could also, among other things, use the compound form B-TERFs.
However, it also means that we get to point out a difference whenever one is needed - when we want to focus specifically on biphobia and monosexism. In addition, this can come in handy when referring to the many feminists who do support trans* people and trans women, but continue to draw biphobic and monosexist views directly from radscum discourses. In that case also, we can use the term BERFs in order to point out this specific type of biphobia and monosexism.
I also suggest we start using it as a label in order to find information, exchange information and communicate about it more easily.
I think that using the term BERF would allow us to talk about biphobia, monosexism and biphobic misogyny more accurately. It would also help us define it better, and resist it better. In this way, it will help us promote more awareness to this topic and to educate others about it.
I hope Bi Tumblr (and transfeminist tumblr) is willing to take this up. What say you? :)
You know what I would read the hell out of? A biography of bisexual transgender activist and all-around badass woman Sylvia Rivera.
Every time I see a post about her, I’m amazed over and over again by her strength, her passion, and her story. She went through so much bullshit and she is such a vital part of queer history…. but there are no books about her.
I wanna read about bi women like that. *sigh*
Also: Every time I see a post about her, I’m amazed over and over again by how everyone always erases her bisexuality.
When I was planning ideas for my college’s Bi Visibility Day, which I organize, I was interested in looking for more information on Brenda Howard— according to what I had learned about her, she was a bisexual nurse like me (although I’m just a student at the moment), and she was known as the “Mother of Pride” for being instrumental in organizing early Pride events after Stonewall. PISSED ME OFF that there are no books or scholarly articles about her contributions to the bisexual and LGBT* communities… All I really found was a short wikipedia article and a website which appeared to be run by her friends and partner and was quite old, outdated and personal. How is it that the woman who is responsible for Pride festivals even EXISTING does not have more written about her???
Actually Brenda Howard was exactly whom I had in mind when I wrote this. A while back I was wondering about the very same thing, so I asked around on the facebook Bi History group - it turns out that Brenda Howard was a very modest person and did not insist on receiving credit for her ENORMOUS contribution. So she didn’t get any. Because who gives a shit about a bi woman - even if she was responsible for the existence of pride parades!
If you wouldn’t date a bisexual, unfollow me.
If you shame bisexuals for ‘hetero passing privilege’, and yet praise gay people who remain in the closet for survival, unfollow me.
If you don’t believe monosexual privilege is real, unfollow me.
when lesbians argue that two straight women kissing or having sex doesn’t count as a lesbian kiss or lesbian sex because “it’s only lesbian if actual lesbians are doing it”
but then turn around and say two bisexual people of different genders are having a “heterosexual relationship”….
Single standard here people: both of these are a result of biphobia.
Shoutout to all the dudes trying to pick me up at B&N for inspiring this business card design
I’m sorry, but it SRSLY annoys me when these things totally ignore monosexism.
I guess bi/pan people only get to define our oppression if it fits into a different category.