If crows can remember where objects are, even when those objects are hidden from view and not available to them, then surely bisexuals can remember who they’re attracted to even when they’re in a monogamous relationship.
I’m just sayin’
We will only get louder. While you’re discussing whether or not we exist, keep these numbers in mind: 46.1%. That’s the number of bisexual women who have experienced rape. 46.1%. That number rises 15% to 61.1% once you add in abuse and stalking. So why are you still discussing whether or not these women’s sexual identities are valid and not why these women are being ignored. Until you decide to pay attention to the problems facing bisexuals, especially bisexual women, I never want to hear you say the letters ‘LGBT’ ever again. Because clearly the B has nothing to do with this discussion of LGBT rights.
(Neither does that T. Let’s not skip over the fact that this is something we share - not in the least because so many people are both B and T.)
On the biphobia in the LGBT community:
Thanks for coming to our safe spaces. Our only safe spaces, which are forced to be a digital and non-physical location because we are forced out of “safe spaces” that claim to be lgbt spaces. Thanks for shoving us out of pride parades. Thanks for keeping us away from GSA. Thanks for refusing to respect our identities. Thanks for invalidating the discrimination we face by telling us our discrimination is just collateral from your discrimination. Thanks for being insulted when we use the word ‘monosexism’ and still thinking it’s okay to call us “breeders”.
On the biphobia outside the LGBT community:
Thanks for claiming you accept all sexual identities until I tell you I’m bisexual. Thanks for being what you claim is accepting of bisexuality, which is actually sexualizing, objectifying, and fetishizing our women and claiming our men are confused and not actually bisexual. Thanks for showing us that this new movement of improving acceptance for sexual minorities has no room for us.
Ouch :( Too true
"She’s bisexual or at the very least a lesbian"
If you are okay with the word “breeder”
…you probably don’t know how it is used or its history.
I know a lot of people think it just means straight people and it’s a harmless jab at the privileged but it is not.
It is a biphobic, cissexist, racist and generally awful term.
As you can see “breeders” was chanted at bisexuals during London Pride this year and this is not an isolated incident, this is a regular experience at Pride around the world for many bisexuals. It is not only equating them as straight people (since this insult is used against straight people too) but also hypersexualises them for being “good breeders”, there’s the biphobia.
As the comic demonstrates this is especially hard for people who for whatever reason cannot have children, having problems “breeding”, this includes people who have misscarried, people who have recovered from illnesses where their reproductive parts have had to be removed, trans people who have undergone gender ressignment surgery and intersex people. It is essentially stripping people down to their reproductive capabilities and genitals, there’s your cissexism.
The word also has a very racist history, during the slave era “breeder” was often used to refer to black women who were designated for breeding new slaves and even now “welfare breeder” is used as a derogatory term to refer to, primarily, black single mothers. When this word is aimed at poc, especially black and latina women, it brings up a reminder of racism and being stripped of their autonomy to become livestock, there’s your racism.
It can also be very misogynistic when it is aimed at women since reducing women to reproductive value in general is a core value of misogyny.
Seriously don’t use this word, it sucks, it hurts people, let it die.
The word Monosexual and Monoromantic are so important because otherwise
- when Bi/Pan/Omni people vent explicitly about Gay and Lesbian people straight people will side with us not to support us but because of their own Homophobic and Lesbophobic agenda
- when Bi/Pan/Omni people vent explicitly about Straight people Gay and Lesbian people will side with us not in support of us but to co-opt our experiences and erase that our experiences with oppression are always linked to us being bi, which may help to fight Homophobia and Lesbophobia but do fuck all about Bipobia
For the complete strip, see http://empathizethis.com/stories/prejudice-pride/
I was interviewed by Empathize This ( http://empathizethis.com) a great website that creates comic strips based on social justice. I contacted them with an idea, and they encouraged me to tell of my experiences attending LGBT pride. They are very open to people sharing their stories, and were helpful through the whole process.
I wish biphobia at LGBT events didn’t happen, but they do at almost every single one I’ve been to. I felt so sad when I saw the image of myself crying at Brighton pride, after I was spat on; it’s one of the most horrible things to happen in a supposedly LGBT space. I remember how alone I felt when it happened. I also remember how that incident still makes me nervous at times. However, the final image of me hugging a bisexual heart makes me smile. I am happy to be bi. I’m happy that I can love others. I just wish lesbian and gay folks would be happy to leave me alone too.
This is fucking great. Read the entire thing please because it’s about the intersection of being bi and black, which we almost never hear about and we fucking should!
Graphics by Chris Ritter
ignoring the fact that piper kerman identifies herself as bisexual so that you can drool about how “not everybody needs labels!!!!” is bisexual erasure, period
the label of “bisexual” needs support and visibility to lift the stigma surrounding bisexuality and to reinforce its legitimacy. don’t take that away from us just because you think it’s more poetic or philosophical or whatever to not have labels