(1) Here’s why I HATE my school’s center for diversity and inclusion, which is ENTIRELY run by gay men, lesbians and their straight allies. First they held a seminar on identity for incoming freshman 'explaining' how if you are bisexual you are (probably faking it and introducing their ‘coming out’ group *hint* hint* hint*) cis and you only date cis people. And how B is for Binary and Binary is Bad.
(2) And then they told everybody about all these other wonderful 'identities' like pannie and polly and pomo that mean you are SO totes into all the 'different' new and exciting genders. And then when we want to have a bi table and presentation at the rainbow pride event at graduation they kind of laughed at us we could table with the open & questioning group BUT that we were Too Confused to be included becasue WE COULDN’T EVEN FIGURE OUT WHAT NAME TO CALL OURSELVES.
(3) And BTW the lesbian leadership and gay guys chat groups? They don’t talk about or deal with transgender and non-binary issues because 'obviously' gay men are men who love other men and lesbians are women who love other women so what does THAT have to do with the 'gender binary'?
if you look into a mirror in the dark and whisper “bisexuality isn’t inherently binary” a pansexual will immediately appear out of thin air and say “bi means two in latin”
If you say you are not attracted to trans people you are transphobic. You should not need me to fucking tell you this.
If you say bisexuals are attracted only to cis men and cis women you are not only transphobic, but also biphobic.
Today after class I went up to my sociology teacher and let her know that she got the definition of bisexuality wrong, and that it doesn’t only acknowledge two genders, and she laughed and said “no, you’re wrong. I have to disagree with you on that.” And I was so fucking mad like, not only did she tell a bi person that she knew what bi meant more than they did, but she laughed at me.
And she was all “that’s why a lot of people identify as pansexual. Because bisexual doesn’t include other genders.”
AND SHE FUCKING KNOWS IM TRANS and like I mean I didn’t tell her I’m bi but I kind of expected her to respect that and trust that I know what I’m talking about when it comes to the lgbt stuff.
Like if bi didn’t include trans people I think the trans kid would know about it.
So yeah like I told her that its attraction to the same and other genders and that a lot of people identify as bi who acknowledge and are attracted to nonbinary people and she was just kinda like “fine whatever you say” and like I was just so mad like there was smoke coming out of my ears cuz fucking straight ally thinks she knows everything.
I would email her this link and politely tell her I’d appreciate it if she read it.
"There’s no such thing as bisexual. You’re either gay, straight, or pansexual."
That’s a new one.
what the sweet baby fuck who would say that
Someone who works for HRC or some other arm of Gay Inc. or in the Queer Studies Department in some University and is hysterically trying to make sure that the Bisexual/Non-Monosexual Community is NOT given it’s fair share of grant-funding, programs, jobs etc. becasue that would mean less for the Gay White Men who run everything. And to quote the Bisexual Resource Center:“Pitting Minorities Against Each Other: The sad fact is these allegations of binarism draw not from actual transphobia within bisexual communities or bi-identified people, but from a long history of biphobia within parts of the gay and lesbian movements.
Claims of bisexuality as an "oppressive identity" are not new. We used to (and still) hear that bisexuals are a "privileged group" perpetuating heteronormativity and oppressing gay and lesbian people. Yet now we hear that bisexuals are a privileged group perpetuating cisgender** normativity and oppressing transgender and genderqueer people.
Both are demonstrably incorrect. An oppressing class/system will often point to the groups it seeks to marginalize and demonize and claim that they are in fact the ones who are the force of oppression and evil. It’s a classic maneuver, and it couldn’t be more false.
Trans people have suffered from very similar allegations from gays and lesbians. Male to female (MTF) trans people have been accused of merely escaping from one stereotype to another rather than advocating true gender freedom. Meanwhile, female to male (FTM) trans people have been accused of being opportunistic seekers of male privilege. Boy, we just can’t win, can we?
The “Bisexual = Binary” argument pits these minorities-within-the-minority against the other, compelling us to compete for a place in the gay and lesbian movement. In this way, the movement can stop worrying about how to prevent bi and trans communities from threatening their positions of power. Setting us against one another makes sure that we’ll do that job for them.”
The Bisexual Resource center cites me as the source of the ideas, and these are particularly taken from Words, binary and biphobia, or: why “bi” is binary but “FTM” is not (a text which also appears in the first chapter of my book).
Please give credit where credit is due. Thank you.